Divorce

  • The Family Liaison Office (FLO) provides guidance and support in the area of divorce. Foreign Service employees and family members in the process of a divorce are eligible to access these services. While Foreign Service couples go through divorce proceedings in the same manner as those living permanently in the United States, there are factors to consider which may complicate or prolong the process due to the nature of international assignments.

Key Resources

The Family Liaison Office (FLO) advocates for employees and families under Chief of Mission authority. “Divorce and the Foreign Service,” a FLO publication, addresses topics related to separation and divorce, including Advance Travel. The Crisis Management and Support Team provides guidance and referral to all Foreign Service employees and family members on a range of topics related to divorce. Email: FLOAskSupportServices@state.gov

Employee Consultation Service (ECS) provides short-term counseling and referrals for State Department employees and family members. This is a confidential, free service staffed by licensed clinical social workers. ECS has a monthly divorce support group that meets at the Department of State. Contact: 703-812-2257 or MEDECS@state.gov.

WorkLife4YouDepartment of State, both Civil Service and Foreign Service employees and family members are eligible to use this service. Phone: 1-866- 552-4748 / TTY: 1-800-873-1322. For login information, contact FLO at FLOAskSupportServices@state.gov

USAID employees and family members are eligible to use USAID Staff Care

** Employees of agencies other than the Department of State should check with their headquarters for guidance pertaining to their contracted  Employee Assistance Program.

Travel of Children of Separated Families

The provision in 3 FAM 3724(4) that requires family members to travel to the same R&R location as the employee has been eliminated. As long as travel by family members provides relief from conditions at post, and the travel is in accordance with all other provisions of 3 FAM 3720, the R&R destination of family members may be different from the R&R destination of the employee. The change will provide greater flexibility to visit relatives, address the varied interests of family members, and pursue personal and business matters.

Regulations on travel of children of separated families (3 FAM 3750) prohibit payment of transportation for another person to accompany a child who is visiting a parent, however, the Department of State will pay the airline fee for a child who is traveling unaccompanied. The fee can not be used for any other purpose or to defray any other expenses.

Frequently Asked Questions about Divorce in the Foreign Service

Q: Where can an employee or spouse find information about divorce in the Foreign Service?

A: FLO’s “The Foreign Service Family and Divorce” is available online and contains updated information on many topics including: counseling, departure from post, support and jurisdictional considerations, legal assistance, children and divorce, retirement and health benefits, and financial and privacy considerations. It provides a number of additional resources, as well as a real life scenario and statements by Foreign Service employees and spouses who have experienced separation and divorce.

Q: In which state I should file for divorce? I have property in VA and in FL and been out of the United States for nearly a year.

A: Divorce involves many important legal and financial decisions,  WorkLife4You is the Department of State’s 24/7 Employee Assistance Program (EAP) for  employees and their family members. WL4Y will help employees and family member find programs, providers, information, resources and guides for all kinds of life events to include divorce.   Call them for 24/7 personalized assistance or on the website you can; read articles and educational guides, order topic related kits, engage in monthly live talk, watch on demand webinars and listen to audios.

Q: If circumstances are such that the employee and family (spouse and/or children) can no longer live in the same official residence because of an impending separation, is the post required to find other housing for the employee, spouse (and children) at post?

A: To minimize the disruption to the children’s education or to give the spouse time to get organized, post may provide temporary housing if available; however, this is not a requirement. Curtailment is always an option and post management may determine this for the employee if there is no suitable solution at post.

Q: How can a separating/divorcing spouse leave post?

A: A spouse who leaves post before the tour of duty ends can leave using advance travel authority. Return travel of an employee’s spouse may be authorized to the employee’s service separation address in the United States (see definition of “United States” in 14 FAM 511.3) or any other location in the United States on a cost-constructive basis from the employee’s post of origin to the employee’s separation address when a permanent marital separation or divorce is intended.

The spouse will receive advance travel orders and a ticket for return to the U.S. When advance orders are prepared, the spouse may receive HHE and airfreight shipments. The HHE and airfreight should be shipped from post in the spouse’s name. The weight of the advance shipment is then subtracted from the total weight allowed at the employee’s next transfer. Airfreight is authorized per person traveling. (14 FAM 613.3-1)

Before the spouse departs post, the couple should both sign and have notarized:

  • Statement of mutual consent that one partner is not deserting or abandoning the other

The employee should sign the following:

  • Joint Property Statement (14 FAM 627.6) which will allow the spouse access to goods in storage
  • Authorization to Receive Goods Shipped From Post, which will allow the spouse to receive household effects.

Q: Is a separating spouse eligible for Separate Maintenance Allowance?

No, the separating spouse is not eligible for Separate Maintenance Allowance. This allowance is not intended for situations of marital separation or divorce. (DSSR 261.1b).

Q: What if the employee refuses to sign documents allowing the spouse access to HHE from post and storage, and denies the spouse (and children) financial resources necessary to establish themselves when they leave post.

There is a requirement for employees to provide adequately for spouse and children due to separation and/or impending divorce as stated in STATE 137568 (see “The Foreign Service Family and Divorce” for more information). Employees are reminded that they have a responsibility to facilitate the return of their spouse (and children) to the United States or other location the family may choose. The employee is encouraged to reach a settlement with respect to disposition of household effects before anyone departs post.

The employee is also encouraged to reach a settlement with his or her spouse in order to ensure adequate financial resources for the spouse and family to establish themselves back in the United States or other location. This document, based on a Department of State cable to all posts, discusses possible actions available, if the employee fails to make these adequate arrangements.

Q: What if an employee refuses service of papers?

Service of papers (or service of process) refers to the serving of court orders by one party on another. The position of the Department of State is that refusal of an overseas employee to accept service reflects adversely upon the U.S. government and may result in the employee’s reassignment to the U.S. so that the service can be made and divorce proceedings can begin. A Foreign Service employee may not use an overseas assignment, or diplomatic status, to avoid service of process. (22 CFR 172.2(d))

Q: Does a spouse have a right to a portion of the employee’s pension?

Yes, a spouse has an automatic right to a portion of the employee’s pension if the spouse meets certain eligibility requirements.  Please contact RNET the Retirement Office in the Department of State at RETServices@state.gov.

Q: What about health insurance coverage for the spouse?

For a qualifying spouse, there is a 60* day window following the finalization of the divorce in which the

spouse may opt to enroll in any of the government health plans at his or her own cost. To qualify, the spouse must have been enrolled in one of the government health plans as a family member at any time during the previous 18 months and must not remarry before the age of 55. The spouse must contact the Retirement Office in the Department of State, or the Personnel Office of their agency during the 60 days following the divorce. (P.L. 98-615).

* In order to maintain continuity of FEHB coverage, the former spouse must submit FEHB application or a letter within 31 days of the date of divorce.

If the spouse does not qualify for a pro rata share of the pension, the spouse may still be eligible for 36 month coverage of health insurance if he or she was enrolled as a family member at the time of the divorce. (P.L. 100-654)

Q: How can an employee’s wages or pension be garnished?

Wages of an employee or pension of a retiree can be garnished for child support or alimony payment if the ex-spouse presents a court order for debt garnishment to the Office of Legislation and General Management at the Department of State, or to their agency. (5 U.S.C., 5520a(j)(2))3

Q: Are there any other consequences for a Foreign Service Officer who is in arrears with child support?

Any individual owing over $2500 in child support is prohibited from receiving a new or renewed passport. This statute includes tourist, diplomatic and official passports. (P.L. 104-93)

Q: Does a foreign-born spouse of a Foreign Service Officer have the same rights regarding divorce as a U.S.-born spouse?

Yes. A foreign-born spouse, whether or not a U.S. citizen, has the same rights under Department of State regulations as a U.S.-born spouse. The couple should be aware that foreign marriages and divorces may not always be recognized in U.S. courts. Also, the Department of State may not recognize provisions for former spouse benefits that may be included in a foreign divorce. (Title 22, Part 19, Section19.2 (f))

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