Divorce and the Foreign Service

If you are in the process of divorce and you are a Foreign Service employee or dependent on orders serving under Chief of Mission or in the United States, GCLO is here to provide guidance to you and your family.

Employees and spouses have a right to: 

• Privacy and confidentiality through GCLO
• Make informed decisions
• Use GCLO’s services
• Use the Career Development Resource Center
• Considerate and respectful customer service
• Access information under the Freedom of Information Act
• Access Employee Consultation Services for counseling services
• Use agency-specific resource and referral services to help locate a lawyer

Spouses have a right to:

• Potential pension, survivor, and health benefits
• Advance travel (if posted overseas)
• Seek garnishment of wages if spouse is in arrears
• Apply for jobs using your Executive Order Eligibility

Employees are reminded that they have a responsibility to facilitate the return of their spouse (and children, if any) to the United States or other location, the family may choose.

Employees are encouraged to reach a settlement with respect to disposition of HHE effects before the spouse departs.

Employees are also encouraged to reach a settlement with the spouse to ensure adequate financial resources for the spouse and family to establish themselves in the United States or other location.

For more information on your rights and responsibilities, contact the Management Officer assigned to post. They are there to assist you. Some benefits terminate once a divorce is final. See GCLO’s website for more details or call 202-647-1076, 800-440-0397 or email at GCLOAskSupportServices@state.gov.

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At Post

Scenario 1
Yesterday, my spouse came home from work and announced that divorce papers have been filed. The children and I have been asked to leave post immediately. I was devastated! It is the middle of the school year and only the second year of our three-year tour. I had NO idea this was coming and am in a state of shock. My first thought is about our children, especially the middle one, who has special needs. How will they respond and get through this? Many thoughts are flying through my head about the dissolution of our marriage and family. How could this have happened when I thought everything was going along so well? All of us had adjusted well to this post, the kids were reasonably comfortable at school, and I had finally found a job I liked in the embassy. Who can I talk to about counseling to try to put this back together?

Scenario 2
My post is so small and such a fishbowl that I have been afraid to talk to anyone because I know that the word will get around fast… although I am miserable, I still don’t want to put my spouse’s career in jeopardy.

You may feel comfortable discussing your situation first with the Regional Medical Officer (RMO), Nurse Practitioner, the Regional Medical Officer/Psychiatrist (RMO/P) and/or the CLO. They may refer you to an approved counselor at post, specializing in family practice. In addition, Employee Consultation Services (ECS) has licensed clinical social workers available to help work through family crises. Call 202-634-4874 or email MEDECS@state.gov. This service is confidential and free for employees and family members.

If child or domestic abuse is involved, you should contact the Regional Security Officer (RSO) or Family Advocacy Officer (generally the Deputy Chief of Mission) right away (3 FAM 1810). Domestic violence is generally defined as “any act or threat of imminent violence against a victim (other than a child) that results or threatens to result in physical or mental injury to the victim that is committed by a:

1. Spouse or former spouse of the victim;
2. Person with whom the victim shares a child in common;
3. Person who is cohabitating with or has cohabitated with the victim;
4. Person residing in the household; or
5. Any person who has a relationship with the victim and has access to the victim’s household” (3 FAM 1811.4).

The Family Advocacy Team at post consists generally of the DCM, MED, and the RSO.

Scenario 3
Today my FSO spouse announced that I will no longer accompany them to post, that I have been removed from orders, and that my flight from the U.S. to our onward post has been rerouted to an alternate location. We are scheduled to PCS this week. How can this happen?

Employees are not obliged to bring family members with them to post and EFMs may be removed from travel orders based on the employee’s request; supporting documentation is not required for this action. However, a spouse remains on the OF-126 (Foreign Service Residence and Dependency Report) and the employee’s travel profile as an Eligible Family Member (EFM) as defined in 3 FAM 7120 until the divorce is final.  A spouse cannot be removed from the employee’s OF-126 or their travel profile without providing the final divorce decree to their PCS Analyst.

Scenario 4
Paul is a Foreign Service employee serving at a post overseas. His spouse, Clarissa, has become increasingly more verbally abusive with him, even screaming profanities in front of their children. Clarissa also works at the Embassy, but she does not get along with her subordinates nor her supervisor, which turns into a convenient excuse to continue to berate Paul at home. As Paul sees it, his children are being exposed to unacceptable behavior between their parents. He is also concerned that Clarissa loses her temper quickly with the children as well (though to his knowledge she’s never overtly abused them). While divorce is not what Paul wants, he knows this situation will likely get worse if he doesn’t do something now. 

The Office of Employee Consultation Services (ECS) provides free and confidential support services to assist Foreign Service employees, Civil Service employees, and eligible family members who may be experiencing professional or personal life challenges. Services are offered domestically and abroad via face-to-face, digital video conferencing or telephonically.

ECS is staffed by full- and part-time doctoral and master’s level clinicians. These independently licensed professionals play a vital role in supporting our workforce through the Employee Assistance Program (EAP); Deployment Stress Management Program (DSMP); Alcohol and Drug Awareness Program (ADAP); crisis deployment; 24/7 support line; family advocacy case management; compassionate action consultations; and information and referrals.

In the Department of State/Headquarters

If you are experiencing a personal crisis, you may want to contact someone in the Department of State right away. GCLO, particularly the Support Services Team, is available to provide confidential guidance and referral. In addition, Employee Consultation Services (ECS) has licensed clinical social workers available to help work through family crises.

You may also want to contact MED Mental Health Services (M/MED/MHS). Both ECS and M/MED/MHS respect confidentiality and consider employees and spouses to be independent clients. Members of tandem couples may prefer to select different counselors. See Section 9 for resources and contact information.

Where to Find Support

Scenario 5
I do not know where to start. Where else can I get information about divorce, and where I might file, if we cannot work things out? 

GCLO’s online information on divorce and the Office of Retirement’s Former Spouse Benefits website addresses a variety of subjects related to separation and divorce, including those related to retirement benefits and former spouse Federal Employee Health Benefits (FEHB) enrollment.

Filing for divorce is a civil/personal matter, and you may want to speak to an attorney licensed in the state where you plan to file who can advise you on all legal matters pertaining to the property settlement, the custodial agreement, or the divorce decree.

Each state sets guidelines on filing requirements, residency, child support payments, etc. To help locate a lawyer, and to learn more about filing for divorce, consider using the following resources:

• WorkLife4You (WL4Y): A valuable and free resource and referral service available to all direct-hire Department of State employees and family members as part of the Employee Assistance Program.
• USAID Staff Care: USAID’s free and confidential referral service for members of the USAID workforce and their family members. Specialists are available 24/7.

Most other agencies have contracts similar to WL4Y and Staff Care; consult with the Management Officer or HR Officer at your agency to find out how to access your agency’s Employee Assistance Program.

There are also numerous resources on divorce available outside the government. See Section 9, “Resources” for some suggestions. Many private insurance companies have lists of counselors who accept your insurance plan. If you are religious, you may also feel most comfortable contacting your religious institution for information and guidance. Divorce is a very emotional issue, so it is a good idea to try to get several sources of information to be well informed and prepared.

Scenario 6
My husband and I are separating with the intention to divorce, and he will be returning to the U.S. to seek employment. Does he still have the ability to use the resources the Department provides such as WorkLife4You (WL4Y) once our divorce is final?

Once a divorce is finalized, the former spouse is no longer a family member and thus is no longer eligible to access WL4Y. Since the WL4Y specialists will not know this automatically, it would be helpful for the employee to proactively reach out to the WL4Y team to update their file with this change if they would like their former spouse to be removed.

What About EFM Employment?

Scenario 7
My spouse and I chose this particular post knowing I had a good opportunity at finding employment. I found a terrific job in an office where my work is valued. Can I keep my job even though my FSO spouse and I are divorcing? If not, is there a time limit for me to be considered for Non-Competitive Eligibility (NCE) positions in the United States?

Generally, an individual may not remain employed as an EFM, whether on a Family Member Appointment (FMA), Temporary Appointment (TEMP), or Personal Services Agreement (PSA) once the spousal relationship is terminated. (See, for example, 3 FAM 8219).  For EFMs employed on a Personal Services Agreement (PSA), please contact GTM-OE for guidance pertaining to their loss of employment status once the spousal relationship has ended. However, under certain circumstances an exception may be granted, see 3 FAM 8228.1(c).

Non-competitive Eligibility (NCE) is a special hiring authority that an EFM can earn by being employed at post on an appointment. If NCE is earned, an EFM can use this NCE eligibility to be appointed non-competitively to a Civil Service position. Generally, NCE must be used within three years of the EFM’s return to the U.S. to resume residency, regardless of when the spousal relationship is terminated.

Scenario 8
Our separation is out in the open and it is getting to the point where community members outside our immediate social circle are asking questions. My spouse works at the Embassy and our children attend the State Department supported school. How can my spouse remain employed for the duration of my tour considering all that’s going on with us personally?

If you and your spouse are separated or in the process of divorcing, provided the EFM stays on orders, they may remain employed until the spousal relationship is terminated, or when the sponsoring employee’s assignment to post ends, whichever is sooner. Generally, once the spousal relationship terminates, the spouse is no longer an EFM and may not continue working at post.

Scenario 9
I am separating from my Foreign Service spouse, and I would like to find employment with the federal government or a government contractor. Will I be able to retain membership in the Foreign Service Family Reserve Corps (FSFRC)?

Generally, FSFRC membership will terminate when the spousal relationship between the sponsoring employee and the FSFRC member ends. The same is true when the sponsoring employee retires, resigns, or passes away. However, under certain circumstances an exemption may be granted see 3 FAM 8228.2 (d). A security clearance is only valid in conjunction with the particular job it was issued to support; however, you may continue to be eligible for a security clearance under reciprocity guidelines.

What About Legal Counsel?

You may be working hard to save the relationship while at the same time thinking you should be consulting a lawyer. Even if you are overseas, it is important that each party consult a family law attorney in the state where the divorce action is likely to be filed so that you both will be informed about the legal details/requirements pertaining to such actions. For more information on selecting an attorney, see Section 4, “Legal Assistance.”

Before you select an attorney, you may want to do some of your own research and speak to several attorneys/legal resources. The Department of State’s Office of the Legal Adviser does NOT provide such advice. At the very least, you should try to have a telephone conversation with an attorney before leaving post. The attorney can give specific guidance on separation agreements and the types of documents that should or should NOT be signed before departure.

Most importantly, the lawyer can advise the party about actions that may protect the party against charges of family desertion or assist in temporary child custody issues. Be aware that some attorneys will require a retainer agreement before offering such guidance.

The following list of questions may be helpful as you have preliminary conversations with an attorney. This list is not comprehensive or appropriate for all situations.

1. How do you charge clients? How much are the charges?
2. Will there be a retainer fee? How much and when will it be due? Can you expect a letter outlining the fee arrangements?
3. Will the lawyer be the sole attorney handling the case? If not, when can you meet the other members of the firm who will assist?
4. How long has the lawyer practiced law and specifically matrimonial law?
5. What is the attorney’s experience with contested divorce proceedings?
6. If children are involved, what experience does the attorney have with contested custody proceedings?
7. How long will your case take to resolve?
8. What does the attorney require of you as a client?
9. Which U.S. state will have paramount interest in the marital status of the parties?
10. What are the residency requirements in order to file for divorce in a particular state?
11. If a foreign divorce is contemplated, will it be enforceable in the home state?
12. If a simple separation agreement is written to indicate that the separation is by mutual consent, will this document be legal in the home state?

You will need to provide the attorney with a clear picture of the income and property of the marriage. The following non-comprehensive list describes the type of information that you should be prepared to provide your attorney, as requested. Be sure to hand carry this information with you if you are traveling from overseas.

• General information for each spouse/partner:
  • Name and date of birth
  • Home and work address
  • Academic background
  • Employment history
  • Military service

• History of relationship/marriage:
  • Date of marriage
  • Any previous separations or divorce proceedings
  • General information for each child
  • Name and date of birth/adoption
  • Special needs/talents
  • Health
  • School/academic information
  • Relief sought; and
  • A brief description of your thoughts on custody, support, and property distribution.

For basic legal information regarding divorce actions in the relevant state, you could also begin with an initial, free legal consultation through WorkLife4You. They may be able to help you with questions related to jurisdiction to grant a divorce. (See Section 3 and 4 for further information on jurisdiction, lawyers, mediation and arbitration, and Section 9 for resources on finding a lawyer.)

What if You Cannot Afford a Lawyer?

If you cannot afford a lawyer, you may qualify for free legal help from a Legal Aid or Legal Services Corporation (LSC) office. These offices generally offer legal assistance for such things as landlord-tenant relations, credit, utilities, family matters (e.g., divorce and adoption), foreclosure, home equity fraud, Social Security benefits, welfare, unemployment, and workers’ compensation. If the Legal Aid office in your area does not handle your type of case, it may refer you to other local, state or national organizations that can provide help.

To find the Legal Aid office nearest to you, check a local telephone directory or contact the following:

National Legal Aid & Defender Association
1901 Pennsylvania Ave. NW, Suite 500
Washington, DC 20006
Phone: 202-452-0620
https://www.nlada.org/

To find the Legal Services Corporation (LSC) office closest to you, check a local telephone directory or contact the following:

Legal Services Corporation Public Affairs
3333 K St. NW
Washington, DC 20007
Phone: 202-295-1500
https://lsc.gov/

Free assistance may also be available from a local law school program where students, supervised by attorneys, handle a variety of legal matters. Some of these programs are open to all; others limit their service to specific groups, such as senior citizens or low-income persons. Again, contact your employee assistance program (EAP) to see if you are entitled to additional services.

Information provided in this section is for family members who depart while their employee sponsor remains at post. In the case where the employee sponsor is curtailed or reassigned to a new location (with travel orders), the family member no longer has status at post and should consult with post management on proper procedures for pack-out and relocation.

Scenario 1
If counseling fails, will I (as an EFM) be able to stay in the embassy-provided housing for a while and, if not, would the embassy find me alternate housing? What determines how long I can remain at post? If I go back to the U.S. with the kids, will the government pay our way? And what about HHE?  

A former EFM/spouse states:
I would like to share my experience with other spouses/partners who face divorce while posted overseas:

• Do not allow yourself to be forced out of your home unless you are concerned about your safety (a possible abuse situation).
• Before you leave post, you should:
  • Understand, and have requested, Advance Return of Family travel orders, which covers the cost of plane tickets home and allows for the shipment of HHE (14 FAM 532.8).
  • Create a separation agreement as described in 14 FAM 532.8
  • Have put in place a memo, or agreement – Authorization to Receive Goods Shipped from Post
  • Have executed and notarized a Joint Property Statement that documents what you have in storage so that this can be released to you
  • Have the powers of attorney you need, including a limited power of attorney from your bank or credit union
  • Have plans and resources in place (Contact your bank/credit union to make sure that you will not be blocked from using joint accounts without your written, notarized permission).

Without these documents in place, it may be more difficult to set up a home and take care of yourself and your children.

At This Point

• What is the process?
• Who needs to be involved?
• What resources are available?

EFMs who are still married, and on the employee’s travel orders, qualify to receive U.S. Government (USG) owned or leased housing, if available. When post has a vacancy in the housing pool, they may be compelled to let a spouse (and their children) move in (for a limited time) so they can get organized to leave post, or until the end of a school semester or year when a month or two remains. This is to try to minimize the disruption to the children’s education (this is where the Family Advocacy Team at post and MED can play a role). Post is not required to provide separate housing at post.

An EFM/spouse/partner who departs post before the tour of duty ends can use advance travel authority (14 FAM 532.8), including for advance shipment of household effects (14 FAM 618). Post management considers the best outcome for the family whenever feasible.

• The EFM may receive travel orders and a ticket for return to the U.S. (or a foreign location on a cost-construct basis) and is eligible for HHE and air freight shipments.
• The HHE and airfreight should be shipped from post in the EFM/spouse’s name. The weight of the advance shipment is then subtracted from the total weight allowed at the employee’s next transfer.
• Air freight is authorized per person traveling. If the spouse is returning to a non-U.S. location, then they will be responsible for paying any entry customs, tariffs and taxes to the host country where the HHE and air freight will be shipped to.

Separate Maintenance Allowance cannot be used in cases of marital separation or divorce, a separating EFM is NOT eligible for Separate Maintenance Allowance (DSSR 263.3).

As long as the couple has not yet divorced and the EFM/spouse is on the employee’s travel orders for the post where the employee is assigned, then they are entitled to hold a diplomatic passport. EFMs who are not U.S. citizens may not have a U.S. passport of any kind (Title 22, CFR Section 51.3).

A former spouse/partner states:
Please make sure to remind any spouse who leaves post early because of separation or divorce that they should not go on their own dime; advance travel orders can cover their departure.

The Separation Agreement

Check with an Attorney First
A separation agreement is a legal document drawn up by parties to the marriage and witnessed, usually by a notary public. It can be general or specific and can address either some or all of the divisions that occur during a separation. Before writing and signing a separation agreement, which divides property and addresses child custody, be sure to consult an attorney.

Scenario 2
I heard that sometimes the employee won’t let the spouse do things like leave, take the children, take certain items, etc. unless the EFM spouse signs a waiver to future benefits, etc. How can I protect myself and my children?

Use Extreme Caution before Agreeing to Sign Waivers
Carefully review any document you sign that could possibly jeopardize future annuity, survivor annuity (separate from annuity), or Federal Employees Health Benefits (FEHB) for yourself or your children. You may want to consult an attorney before you sign any such document.

Advance Return of Family Travel

Authorized by employee, post management, or head of agency at post, according to 14 FAM 532.8, “Return travel of an employee’s spouse may be authorized to the employee’s service separation address in the United States (see definition of “United States” in 14 FAM 511.3) or any other location on a cost-constructive basis from the employee’s post of origin to the employee’s separation address when a permanent marital separation or divorce is intended.”

Generally, a separation agreement should exist, but in the absence of an agreement, the Chief of Mission or head of agency’s establishment abroad may determine that such travel is warranted and may initiate authorization action.  The circumstances on which this determination is based should be summarized in writing and retained at post in accordance with 5 FAH-4, Records Management Handbook.

Important Note: Couples considering divorce may not want to wait until PCS orders are cut as they may not qualify for separate HHE shipments; employees need to access Advance Travel in order to have USG cover the shipping costs to the employee’s separation address.

Scenario 3
My spouse has decided to return to her country of origin with our daughter during our separation. I would like to make sure that they have financial and other resources they will need to settle in. Should I just go ahead and pay for their travel myself since they aren’t going back to the designated U.S. separation address? 

This type of travel may be cost constructed through the post Travel Management Center (TMC). In these cases, the traveler/employee must pay any difference in cost over the authorized itinerary to the service separation address.

Note: if the employee self-purchases the tickets, the Office of Travel and Transportation Management (TTM) must audit the travel after it is completed.

Scenario 4
We will be leaving my ex-spouse’s post and have decided not to return to the United States since my extended family, my entire support network, lives abroad. My daughter has researched the State Department supported school in the country where we will reside and, since it is midyear and it will be beneficial for her to connect with other Foreign Service students, I would like to find out if she can go to that school. Is this possible? What should my next steps be?

While attending the Department of State supported school abroad may certainly be possible, it will be an out-of-pocket expense. In this case, seeing that the child “normally resides” with the spouse that departed post, the employee is not eligible for the ‘away from post’ education allowance. (See DSSR 276.22 for details)

Advance Travel in Cases of Separation or Divorce

Advance return travel to the service separation address may be included in the first travel authorization issued to the employee authorizing travel of the family after an agreement to separate or divorce is reached (14 FAM 532.8-b).

Before any expenses are incurred for the return travel of the EFM spouse, the spouse must sign an agreement stating that they understand that travel back to the same post will not be authorized at USG expense and that the agreement is signed voluntarily (14 FAM 532.8-d).

The employee has to sign a repayment agreement (14 FAM 532.3-4) agreeing to pay back the cost of the ticket in case the employee does not complete the service period required to become eligible for travel at USG expense.

The employee may also pay out of pocket for the return travel of the separating EFM spouse, and when the employee has been issued travel orders for their next departure, they may claim reimbursement. The reimbursement amount will be limited to the amount the USG would have paid for the spouse if they had departed with the employee on orders to the employee’s next post of assignment.

What If Things Improve, We Reconcile, and We Agree I Could Go Back to Post?

A spouse is only eligible for one-way transportation to return to the service separation address in connection with separation, dissolution, or divorce (14 FAM 532.8-c). If the employee later requests travel of the spouse at USG expense back to the same or a subsequent post where the employee is assigned, and the total cost of this return and subsequent travel is greater than the employee’s authorized travel, the employee will have to pay the difference.

The employees should always keep their OF-126 up to date and current.

Does Advance Travel Cover the Travel of the Children?

Scenario 5
I can’t believe it! Tom has told me to leave but I can’t take the children!! They are my children as much as his! I am the one who takes care of them while he works long hours, weekends and is away on TDY. What are my rights? What are the children’s rights in this case? 

It is important to note that travel of dependent children of an employee may be authorized under this provision only if a legal custody agreement exists or the employee otherwise agrees in writing to permit the children to leave the post permanently with the spouse (14 FAM 532.8-e). This is true regardless of whether it is the employee or the spouse who initiates the separation.

Travel entitlements, like most others, go to the employee. When the employee agrees that the children may leave post under advance travel, they must also submit a revised Form OF-126, “Residence and Dependency Report,” to declare as a loss those children for whom return travel is requested under this provision. Absent the authorization of the employee, the spouse may choose to seek a court order which may enable them to leave post.

How Do I Obtain HHE from Post and Storage?

Scenario 6
If necessary, I am going to get a lawyer and a court order so I can bring the kids back to the States. Then, of course, we will need their things from post, and I will have to get furniture out of storage to set up a house. We need as many of their personal things as possible to try to make them feel as comfortable as possible. This is really tough on all of us.

For DOS and USAID customers, the Transportation Management (TM) Division requires the following for the spouse to arrange for a delivery of HHE from either an overseas shipment or storage:

1. Travel orders; and
2. Employee’s consent (power of attorney or joint property authorization) for property in the United States Agency’s authorization based on the orders.

Important Note: Assuming travel orders are authorized, HHE can be removed from an overseas location or from storage (if stored at USG expense) only with the employee’s consent. Email transportationquery@state.gov with any questions pertaining to HHE. For other agencies (e.g., Commerce/Agriculture), customers need to contact their designated transportation office or HR for assistance.

Employee Cooperation is Necessary

The employee must request advance travel and advance shipment of household effects (HHE) on behalf of their family members (14 FAM 618.1). This must be supported by an approved justification. Post management may also authorize the family member travel in lieu of the employee request (14 FAM 532.3).

For Department of State employees, the request is sent from post to the Office of Career Development and Assignments (CDA); for employees from other agencies the request is sent to the appropriate bureau of their agency. When approved, the travel orders are issued in Washington, DC by the employee’s agency; if travel occurs before these orders are issued the employee must pay the expenses and request reimbursement.

Before leaving post, take steps to ensure that HHE shipped from post can be delivered if the employee cannot be present.

Advanced travel orders, which include the HHE addressed to the spouse, are sufficient for Transportation Management (TM) to release and deliver the goods. The employee may also send an email to transportationquery@state.gov authorizing these actions. It is also recommended that the departing spouse should obtain a notarized statement from the employee before leaving post, which provides authorization to receive goods shipped from post.

Important Note: If the employee will not cooperate in requesting this advance travel/shipment, contact transportationquery@state.gov for guidance. On January 9, 2018, the Director General sent a cable to all posts entitled, “Separation and Divorce: Responsibilities and Resources.” It states that, “failure of an employee to arrange adequately for a spouse/domestic partner or children’s transition from post can reflect adversely upon the U.S. Government. Moreover, the Chief of Mission (COM) and the Department have a legitimate concern for the safety and welfare of family members who accompany employees to post.”

Once the advance orders are approved, the weight of the advance shipment is then subtracted from the total weight allowed at the employee’s next transfer. Air freight is authorized per person traveling (14 FAM 618.1-c).

Ensure HHE in Storage Can Be Accessed

Transportation Management (TM) requires authorization for an EFM spouse to access HHE in storage that is under the employee’s name. They will accept a notarized Joint Property Statement (JPS), which the EFM spouse can obtain before departing post or authorization by email for the spouse to remove specific items/boxes from the employee’s storage goods.

If access and removal is not covered by travel orders, the employee (or spouse) must pay all costs associated with access and removal.

These costs are not reimbursable against future travel orders.

TM will contact the storage company to authorize access for the spouse as granted by the employee. These costs are not reimbursable against future travel orders.

If customers are not sure if travel orders cover an access and removal at USG expense, contact transportationquery@state.gov.

For other agencies (e.g., Commerce/Agriculture), customers need to contact their designated transportation office or HR for assistance.

Scenario 7
I was still in the United States (preparing to PCS to post) when my spouse (the FS employee) who had already arrived at post let me know she no longer wants to be married to me. What are my options in terms of accessing my belongings?

In terms of belongings, the advance shipment of household effects from post (HHE) – (14 FAM 618.1-c) may be authorized to the employee’s separation address (the address authorized on the employee’s travel orders) in connection with separation or divorce only if a legal property settlement exists or if the employee otherwise agrees in writing and identifies those items that are to be shipped as the property of the spouse. If the HHE is shipped to a location other than the separation address, it would be done on a cost-construct basis.

Note: Property that leaves post as an advance shipment cannot be placed in storage. It must go directly to the separation address or to another location on a cost-construct basis. A POV cannot be shipped under this authority at all. 

Scenario 8
Wow, where should I consider living in the United States with the children…to stay with my parents in Iowa? The kids and my parents adore each other, and they would get plenty of support from the community in Ames but…what about moving back to DC where we were before? The kids know the schools, Beth could get back into her gymnastics program, I could get help from GCLO with my job search…but then I would have to use the special “Foreign Service clause” to oust our tenants who have been so good about keeping things up. Then, there is our official separation address in Florida that we have kept all these years. That may be where the divorce is filed and one of us at least has to live there for six months.

Your first instinct may be to choose a location where you would find emotional support, perhaps where there are family and friends. Jurisdiction considerations, where either party would be filing for divorce, should also be included in your relocation decision. In some cases, you may have married overseas, not have property in the U.S., and believe it would be easier to divorce overseas. However, this divorce might not be recognized in your legal residence in the U.S. should you return.

State Residency

To get a divorce in the U.S., one of the parties must be a resident of one of the states or possessions. This is true even if you are assigned overseas at the time.

“Residence” has two meanings:

• Place of Abode—where you are both physically present and currently living; and
• Domicile—where you are considered to reside for tax purposes.

Some states refer to “domiciled residents” and “domiciled nonresidents.” For example, a family posted to Kenya has two residences: their place of abode is Kenya, and their domicile is their home leave state or the state to which they pay income taxes.

Jurisdiction to grant a divorce is usually based on domicile. Most states require that only one of the parties be domiciled in the state in order to file for divorce. Some states, such as Virginia, require physical presence for a certain period of time, in addition to domicile, therefore; it would be necessary to return and live in Virginia for that time before you or your spouse would be able to file.

Important Note: Anyone contemplating divorce should consult an attorney practicing in their state of domicile to determine the requirement for initiating a divorce action, including possible residency requirements. Also, it may be important to learn early on if the state where the divorce will be filed is a communal property (where all property is divided 50-50%) or an equitable distribution state. This basic information may be obtained at no charge during initial consultation with an attorney through WorkLife4You for Department of State employees or Staff Care for USAID employees or through equivalent employee assistance programs for other agencies.

What About Diplomatic Immunity?

Foreign Service employees and spouses posted abroad should consult with post management, and if needed the Office of the Assistant Legal Advisor for Diplomatic Law and Litigation (L/DL), to determine if a waiver of diplomatic immunity is necessary before obtaining a divorce in the country of assignment.

Generally, if you are accredited as a diplomatic agent or as a member of the administrative and technical staff, or are married to somebody who is, the Department of State would need to waive your immunity before you could file or appear before a local court.

Diplomatic immunity exists for the benefit of the U.S. Government and can be waived only with Department of State consent; the individual does not control their own immunity. Guidelines for the waiver of immunity in divorce cases are in the Foreign Affairs Manual 2 FAM 221.5. All requests for waivers of immunity and questions concerning these waivers should be sent to:

• Office of the Assistant Legal Advisor for Diplomatic Law and Litigation (L/DL), Room -6422, Department of State, Washington, DC 20520.  Current employees may email: legal-dl-dl@state.gov

The 2 FAM 221.5 covers guidelines pertaining to some, but not all, domestic relations cases. These include divorce, separation, maintenance, child custody, and child support.

Requests for waivers of immunity (for the proceedings or service of process) may be considered: 

1. If both parties consent and the action is pursued in the U.S.;
2. If one party is in the U.S. and the other is at post, for the purpose of allowing service of process on the party at post, if that person consents;
3. If one party is in the U.S. and the other at post, to allow services on the person at post, without that party’s consent, ONLY if the waiver is necessary to prevent undue hardship on that party or family members seeking service, AND if the action will be pursued in the U.S.; and
4. To allow a domestic relations action to be pursued in the host country if both parties consent and the prosecution of the action will not adversely affect the interests of the U.S. Government.

Service of Process Abroad

Scenario 1
What happens if we get back to the U.S. and I stop hearing from him? I have heard about other spouses who didn’t know how to get their spouse served when he is overseas. It would be good to know how that works, just in case. Who knows, he may go to Iraq or Afghanistan next, and it could be difficult to reach him.

State laws, including court rules of procedure, govern service of process. It is easier to serve process on a spouse physically present in the state of domicile than on a spouse who is serving overseas. Because state laws differ on these procedures, it is important for you to seek legal advice. If you retain an attorney, they will usually arrange for the service of process.

There are various methods of serving legal process, some of which are listed below. Again, it is important that you seek competent legal advice on issues regarding proper service. Otherwise, service could be invalid, and you may be wasting your time and money.

Two Important Points:

1. Foreign Service employees should not use an overseas assignment to avoid service of process (22 CFR 172.2(d). Such behavior reflects adversely on the U.S. Government. Post management, preferably the Deputy Chief of Mission, should counsel and encourage employees to accept service of process. The Department of State may waive any relevant immunity of employees who refuse this service of process if it is determined to be in the best interests of the U.S. Government. If the individual continues to evade legitimate attempts at service, it may result in the employee’s curtailment from post and/or possible disciplinary action up to and including separation.
2. Department of State regulations (22 CFR 92.85) prohibit Foreign Service officers from serving process or legal papers or appointing others to do so except when directed by the Department of State.

Methods of Serving Process:

1. If the state permits the service of process by registered mail (a) a registered letter may be sent to a post with an APO/FPO address; or if not (b) the process may be sent via international registered mail.
2. If the country is party to the Hague Convention on the Service Abroad of Judicial and Extra Judicial Documents in Civil and Commercial Matters, process can be served by the central authority which is generally the Ministry of Justice. The Bureau of Consular Affairs, Office of American Citizen Services, can tell you which countries have signed the Hague Convention and how to transmit a request to the foreign central authority for this service.
3. The Inter-American Convention on Letters Rogatory and Additional Protocol is another multilateral treaty on service of documents in force in many countries. Check the Bureau of Consular Affairs’ webpage on Judicial Assistance for up-to-date information.
4. In countries not covered by the Hague Convention, it is possible to hire a local attorney or an attorney’s agent to serve the documents. (See Section 4, “Legal Assistance,” on “Choosing a Lawyer,” and the Bureau of Consular Affairs’ (CA) information brochure, Retaining a Foreign Attorney.
5. Letters rogatory can also serve as formal requests for service of process in countries that prohibit service of foreign court papers. A letter rogatory is a request from a U.S. court to a court in a foreign country requesting international judicial assistance. This often takes a great deal of time and may not be practical. It is not possible if the defendant has diplomatic immunity. CA has information on the preparation of these letters.

Foreign Divorces

Scenario 2
You know, I wonder if it wouldn’t be easier if we just got divorced overseas where we are. We might as well just get it over with and then the kids and I could start fresh when we get back home, wherever we decide that will be.

Before pursuing a foreign divorce (divorce overseas), consult an attorney in your U.S. state of domicile to ensure that the foreign divorce decree will be enforceable in that state. If it is not, the other spouse may also be able to file for divorce in that state and may receive a conflicting judgment.

Keep in mind that the divorce is separate from division of property, custody, etc. Divorce can be obtained in many countries with relative ease and short residency periods. However:

1. Some U.S. courts may not recognize a foreign divorce decree, and it may be difficult to have the terms enforced in the U.S. even though it is a valid termination of a marriage contract. This is because most courts in the U.S. will not recognize a divorce when neither party was “domiciled” in the jurisdiction where it was obtained.
2. If the foreign court awards child support or alimony, it likely will NOT be an order that the Department can use to withhold funds from the employee.  The foreign order will need to be recognized by a U.S. domestic court.
3. There may be concern regarding whether each party had adequate notice of the pending action and an opportunity to participate fully in discussion and decisions related to the resolution, child support, alimony, custody, and property settlements.
4. A foreign court may hold certain biases based on the culture and society of that country. Custody, support agreements, retirement annuity eligibility, or health benefits may not be treated as they would in a U.S. court.
5. Note that a waiver of immunity from the Department may be necessary to invoke the jurisdiction of a court of the country where the couple is accredited. Please speak to post management or the HRO before proceeding with this step. See below.

Scenario 1
I have a friend who divorced recently and really liked her lawyer. Her case was very different from ours though. I need to ask around and do some research on legal assistance. I understand that you can do a lot of this online, but I really want to speak to a person. I don’t want to make mistakes. I can imagine that there must be other Foreign Service families going through this. I can’t be the first one.

Scenario 2
My husband and I are separating. He wasn’t interested in the jobs available overseas and doesn’t want to be the ‘trailing spouse’ anymore. I am wondering if I need to bid on a domestic assignment next as we work this through with the lawyers. I want to make sure I get full custody of the kids, or if it is joint custody that they remain on my orders. There are so many things to think about. 

Lawyers

Good legal advice is essential in divorce cases. As mentioned earlier, if the couple is overseas and considering separation, it is very important that each spouse consult an attorney in the state where the divorce action may be filed to learn about specific laws that may have an impact on the case. The spouse should call the attorney before leaving post as they can:

1. Give specific guidance on separation agreements and the types of documents that should or should not be signed before departure;
2. Advise the party about actions that may protect them against charges of desertion; and
3. Assist in temporary child-custody issues.

Choosing a Lawyer

It is important that the lawyer you choose becomes familiar with the Foreign Service Act of 1980, as amended, which provides pension benefits to certain Foreign Service spouses. For an initial free, basic legal consultation on separation/divorce in the state of jurisdiction from an attorney practicing in that area, you can use the DOS contracted employee assistance program WorkLife4You. For USAID, contact Staff Care; for other agencies contact your Human Resources department for assistance. You will need an attorney at some point regardless of whether you choose litigation (in the courts), mediation, collaborative, or arbitration process.

To locate a lawyer in the United States, even if both spouses are overseas:

1. Get personal references from trusted family members, friends, and clergy or business associates. This is often the best way to find a competent attorney. The attorney selected must be practicing in the jurisdiction where the divorce action was or will be filed:
2. Research the lawyer and information service in your city on the city website or through the county or city government offices;
3. Check the Martindale-Hubbell Law Directory for members of the U.S. and Canadian bar associations; it provides a biographical sketch of many lawyers and the legal specialties of the firms. Visit their website at www.Martindale.com;
4. Contact the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers at office@aaml.org or visit them online at www.aaml.org. They publish a list of certified fellows; these lawyers are listed by state for easy reference;
5. Visit the American Bar Association website at www.abanet.org; or
6. Contact your agency’s employee assistance program.

• Department of State: WorkLife4You
• USAID: Staff Care
• Other Agencies: Contact the Human Resources Department

Retaining a Foreign Attorney

Some couples consider foreign divorces. Foreign marriages and divorces, however, may not always be recognized in the U.S. courts. Also, the DOS may not recognize provisions for former spouse/partner benefits that may be included in a foreign divorce decree (Title 22, Part 19, Section 19.2 (f)).

Should you decide to pursue a divorce overseas, the Consular Section of the U.S. embassy or consulate can provide you with a list of foreign attorneys (the list is maintained for information purposes and is not a recommendation). You may wish to contact several of them and describe the type of services you are seeking. Be sure to request a written schedule of fees charged for the necessary service and ask about their fluency in English. Check with the foreign bar association or similar body regarding the attorney’s education and licensing.

It is important that you feel confident that the attorney understands your situation and has agreed to handle the case before you decide to turn over documents or funds.

Important Note: For employees who will be filing for divorce in the courts of another country, there could be immunity considerations in play; L/DL would need to be involved in that situation. If that is the course you wish to pursue, they will need to know whether you are accredited, and if so how, or if you enjoy immunities via a bilateral treaty, and if so, which one. Post management will be able to assist with answering these questions. Per 2 FAM 221.5, Waiver of Immunity covers how they would need to be involved in order to waive any relevant immunity you might enjoy in a foreign territory. This waiver would not be necessary if you were to file in the United States. 

Other Types of Legal Counsel Overseas:

1. Legal Aid Associations — Some countries have facilities for low cost or free legal services. The Consular list may include information on these legal aid associations. Otherwise, check with the local bar association or the Ministry of Justice.
2. Barristers and Solicitors — In some foreign cities (or districts or provinces) you may need the services of both a solicitor and a barrister. Barristers may appear in court, including superior and courts of appeal. Solicitors are allowed to advise clients, represent them in lower courts, and prepare cases for barristers to try in the higher courts.
3. Notaries Public, “Notaires”, and “Huissiers”– In certain foreign countries the “notaires” and “huissiers” can perform many of the functions performed by attorneys in the U.S. They can draft instruments, wills, and conveyances. In some countries, a notary is a public official appointed by the Ministry of Justice; their functions include not only the preparation of documents, but also the administration and settlement of estates. These notaries may serve as repositories for wills and can serve legal documents. Huissiers serve documents in some countries.

Note: Notaries, “notaires,” and “huissiers” are specialized members of the legal profession, however, they are not lawyers and may not plead cases in court.

How to Deal with a Foreign Attorney

American Citizen Services in the Bureau of Consular Affairs suggests that you:

1. Find out the attorney’s qualifications and experience;
2. Find out how the attorney plans to represent you. Ask specific questions and expect the attorney to explain legal activities in language that you can understand;
3. Ask what fees are charged and how the attorney expects to be paid. “Notaires” and “huissiers” are usually government officials who must charge government-established fees. Some attorneys may expect to be paid in advance; some may demand payment after each action taken on your behalf, refusing to take further action until they are paid; and some may take the case on a percentage basis, collecting a prearranged percentage of the monies awarded to you by the foreign court;
4. Ask your attorney to keep you informed of the progress of the case according to a predetermined schedule. Remember that most foreign courts work rather slowly. You may request that the attorney send you monthly reports, even though no real developments have ensued, simply to satisfy your doubts about the progress of the case;
5. Have your attorney analyze your case, giving you the positive and negative aspects and probable outcome;
6. Do not expect your attorney to give a simple answer to a complex legal problem. Be sure that you understand the technical language in any legal document prepared by your attorney before you sign it;
7. Keep your attorney fully informed of any new developments in the case;
8. Be honest with your attorney. Tell them every relevant fact in order to get the best representation of your interests;
9. Find out how much time the attorney anticipates the case may take to complete. In some countries the courts recess for a period of several months. In addition, even if the case is resolved, currency control laws, in the foreign country may delay the transferring of funds awarded to you for an indefinite period of time; and
10. Request copies of all letters and documents prepared on your behalf.

The Lawyer-Client Relationship

Whether you hire an attorney in the United States or another country, it is important to remember that you are in control and that the lawyer works for you. During the first conversation, gauge how you feel talking to the attorney about the details of your case and listen to their responses. It is essential to communicate easily and effectively with the lawyer and to have confidence and trust that your interests will be well served.

Remember that you are paying for the expertise of the lawyer to properly advise you in the legal implications of the divorce action. Your lawyer should have a definite understanding of the courts in the jurisdiction and a thorough working knowledge of possible rulings in your particular case.

If you are not satisfied with your initial conversations, continue your search until you find an acceptable lawyer—one who meets your criteria. Careful attention to the selection of a lawyer should serve to eliminate serious client-lawyer controversy later.

To ensure a more effective relationship:

1. Be truthful with the attorney, even if the facts appear to be detrimental to your case;
2. Ask effective questions if choices are presented or advice is not understood;
3. Organize your questions and all materials to be presented to the attorney;
4. Distinguish between poor legal representation and correct, but distasteful, advice;
5. Recognize that you are paying for legal advice, not for therapy; and
6. Do not make major decisions without first consulting your attorney.

The initial interview with the attorney of your choice is extremely important, and you should be thoroughly prepared for it. The attorney will need information from you, including information about your case; the nature and extent of your property, other assets, and debts acquired during the marriage; and the relationship of both spouses to any children. You will have specific questions to ask the attorney and doing your homework before this meeting will give the attorney a clearer picture of your circumstances.

To help you organize your papers, it may be useful to label sections in a binder or file folder for: general information, home information, bank and investment folder, retirement, income taxes, and insurances. The following information, which may not be available at post, is useful, but not essential for the initial contact with an attorney. However, you will eventually need:

1. Information on gross salary of each spouse, rank, identification of income from other sources (a copy of a recent earnings statement will be very useful);
2. Annuity payments;
3. Copies of recent income tax returns (at least two years) and other business returns, if applicable;
4. Information on all joint or individually held bank accounts, certificates of deposit, money market accounts, treasury bills or notes, etc., including types of accounts, balances, and account numbers;
5. List of all debts, such as credit cards and outstanding loans. Include account numbers, balance due, and monthly payment schedule;
6. List of stocks and bonds: name and number of shares, cost, date purchased, where located, and titleholder;
7. Copies of insurance policies including life, homeowners, or renters, auto, health or major medical, and others indicating the policy number, parties insured, amount of the premiums, and the owner and beneficiary for each policy. Some insurance policies may be purchased through an employer; there may also be supplemental policies which should be considered;
8. Inventory of household furnishings, appliances, and other acquired personal property with description of item, when and by whom acquired, cost at purchase, current value, and current location of property;
9. List of real estate holdings including address and description of property, date of purchase, cost at purchase date, current appraisal, mortgage balance, and titleholder;
10. Descriptions of all vehicles and boats including date purchased, cost at purchase, current market value, titleholder, and loan balance, if any;
11. Location and contents of joint safe deposit boxes; and
12. Knowledge of location and contents of will, living will, living trusts, and powers of attorney.

Average Monthly Living Expenses

1. Rent/mortgage, taxes, and insurance on the residence;
2. Utilities: heat, air conditioning, water, electricity, gas, and telephone;
3. Food and sundry items;
4. Automobile: gas, oil, maintenance, license, and insurance;
5. Clothing (separate estimates for self and children);
6. Medical: doctors, dentists, drugs, and insurance;
7. Education: tuition, books, activities, camps, uniforms, and lunches; and
8. Other miscellaneous expenses, as appropriate.

Property (or Marital) Settlement Agreement

Scenario 3
What areas should I be sure to include when we are thinking about the property settlement agreement?
When my husband and I were talking about who would get what in the property settlement, he said that I could have the house if I agreed to sign a waiver on receiving part of his annuity. It sounded okay as it would provide a roof and stability for the kids, but in the end, it was such a mistake. I had to continue to pay the mortgage, taxes, upkeep etc., so there wasn’t much left over for living expenses…and of course I had lost the possibility of receiving part of his annuity. Each case may be different, but this was not wise for us.

The five key areas for a property settlement agreement are:

1. Spousal support;
2. Child support;
3. Child custody;
4. A division of assets; and
5. The situation of the house.

The preliminary property settlement may be informal. Both parties may decide on it together, it can be decided between the attorneys hired by the parties, or a judge can make the decision.

When considering the property settlement, it is important to ask yourself: What do you need to survive and to take care of yourself and your children (and pets)?

It is important to write out your preliminary property settlement, review it a few days later, and if you agree you are ready, to bring it to the attorneys and sign it before a notary.

Three methods to arrive at a property settlement are:

• Mediation;
• Negotiation (attorneys discuss a case around a table, most common when parties prefer not to face each other); and
• Litigation (before a judge, less than five percent of cases, most expensive).

Regardless of which method you choose, you may need an attorney to:

• File for the divorce;
• Prepare the final decree; and
• Prepare any division of retirement.

Mediation

Scenario 4
I heard that mediation may not be the best way to go if the divorce is complicated. Is that true? 

Mediation can be helpful at any stage of the dissolution of a relationship to provide either a preliminary separation agreement or a final comprehensive settlement. It is important to consult your attorney before signing the final mediation agreement, however.

After a divorce is finalized, mediation may also be useful in negotiating remaining problems or new issues that arise. (The services of a mediator are generally less expensive than that of negotiators and litigators.)

Family mediation is designed to help couples involved in separation and divorce reach a fair and realistic agreement.  Mediation offers couples a non-adversarial means of settling the issues raised by their separation and can help reorder the couple’s lives into separate ones. Couples are assisted by an impartial professional who is trained in conflict resolution and is knowledgeable about the legal, personal, and practical aspects of separation and divorce. The mediator encourages communication between the parties in resolving property division, financial support, and child custody issues.

The Mediation Process

At the beginning of the mediation process, both parties should meet with their attorneys to be informed of their legal rights. The process may go more smoothly if both attorneys are familiar with and supportive of the mediation process, but mediation can still be a good idea even if they are not. If both spouses agree to mediation, they attend an orientation session to explain the mediation process.

Under the guidance of the mediator, the couple negotiates and resolves the specific issues (e.g., child custody, property division, financial support). The mediator helps the parties to assess the practicality of their proposals and to anticipate future situations. With mediation both parties can decide on an issue, give themselves time to think it over and if one or both change their minds, they can renegotiate before coming to an agreement.

Before your first meeting with a mediator, write down:

• Your goals;
• Your concerns; and
• Emergency issues (i.e., outstanding debt).

Mediators can answer questions about the law in general, about the law in the state where they are practicing and the divorce is filed, and about their experience in court. You will need your attorney to review any documents (before you sign them) related to commitments, obligations, benefits, and what you have decided to concede. The mediator may offer alternate approaches to facilitate agreements. Mediators may meet both jointly and individually with the parties.

Once an agreement has been reached, the mediator will prepare a memorandum of the resolution of issues. Both parties should review the agreement with their attorneys who may make additional suggestions before signing. Do not sign an agreement and then be surprised that it did not contain what you are looking for, for example, no survivor benefits. It can be helpful to work with attorneys who are “mediation friendly.”

The Mediator’s Role

The mediator’s role is to:

1. Ensure that both parties have access to the same financial information;
2. Prevent either party from dominating the other in negotiations;
3. Assure that decisions are made willingly; and
4. Promote an equitable agreement.

Before choosing a mediator here is some information you may want to ask:

1. Number of years of mediation experience;
2. Training in mediation and conflict resolution techniques;
3. Expertise in family dynamics, parenting issues, and the divorce process; and
4. Knowledge of family finances, property, and tax issues.

If your family is likely to end up in different countries, experience with international family cases would be useful.

The Association for Family and Conciliation Courts in Madison, Wisconsin (608-664-3750 or www.afccnet.org) has directories of private and public mediators. Contact them directly for their directories. This site has a list of mediators by state. The list is not comprehensive and is for informational purposes only and is not a recommendation. Also, The Women’s Center of Vienna, VA, thewomenscenter.org is one of the centers in the Washington, DC area with mediators who have extensive experience.

Custody Considerations  

Scenario 1
What type of custody should I be thinking about considering the fact that my spouse will be moving in and out of the U.S. every few years? Should I go for sole custody, or would the kids benefit more from joint custody? There are such great private schools overseas, the special education allowance is adequate and yet, I would probably be able to devote more time and attention to them. I know I would miss them terribly, but I am trying to keep their best interests in mind. 

Scenario 2
My husband and I are filing for divorce because he no longer wishes to be a trailing spouse. We entered into this Foreign Service lifestyle together four years ago with our two young children who are now six and eight. The children love living overseas and are thriving in their school here at post. I do not want to lose custody of the children and really want them to have the lifestyle I can offer as a Foreign Service Officer. Many people have told me that family courts usually side with the parent who stays in one place. Is there anything I can do to convince my husband or a judge that our lifestyle is a healthy one for children? 

Making child custody arrangements may be the most difficult aspect of a divorce. Unless one parent is considered unfit or dangerous to the children, custody arrangements should include frequent contact between the children and both parents when possible.

Courts and parents should always be seeking what is in the best interest of the children. Using the DOS allowance and Travel of Separated Families (3 FAM 3750), be ready to show that the children will be able to safely travel to see the other parent often. We highly recommend reading the AFSA article Child Custody Issues in Foreign Service Divorces for more advice on this topic.

If you have difficulty reaching a mutually agreed upon arrangement, you may want to consult a mediator who can help both of you work through your conflicts. Some counties and states offer assistance through family court, which explains procedures but cannot tell you what you should do or give you legal advice. Consult with an attorney and work towards a custody agreement that is in the best interests of the children.

The Foreign Service employee’s frequent moves and overseas assignments must be taken into consideration in any discussion of child custody. Traditional interpretations of sole or joint custody with frequent or equal visitation rights become even more difficult when the divorced parents live half a world apart. This is further complicated when a tandem couple divorces and wants to share joint custody. Tandem couples may decide to keep the children on one of the spouse’s orders for consistency, or make changes depending on the schools available at post, security and health factors, etc. Again, it is very important to consult with an attorney.

Unaccompanied tours pose special challenges when it comes to child custody. Children will not be able to go to an unaccompanied post; they will not be on the parent’s travel orders during this period. They will be able to see their parent when the parent comes home to visit them, and can also meet the parent at a midway point under the Travel of Separated Families regulations (3 FAM 3750). (See below) The cost of an accompanying parent is not covered under 3 FAM 3750. Questions related to support for families experiencing an unaccompanied tour can be sent to GCLOASKUT@state.gov.

Important Note: Children of divorced employees, spouses, cannot be listed on travel orders unless a copy of the divorce decree establishing that the employee/spouse has joint or sole physical custody (or the equivalent) of the children is on file in the appropriate personnel (GTM/EX) office. In joint custody cases, a notarized statement from the former spouse authorizing the child to reside abroad also is required (see Instructions on the OF-126). Requests for exceptions to this policy will be reviewed on a case-by-case basis.

Important Note:  An employee cannot receive an education allowance (grades K-12) on behalf of their child attending school in the United States if the non-employee parent resides in the United States, except where the employee establishes that the parent residing in the U.S. is divested of custody of the child, is mentally or physically unfit to care for the child, or in the case of a stepparent, is estranged from the employee (DSSR 276.3).

Travel of Separated Families

The Foreign Affairs Manual (3 FAM 3750) outlines the yearly travel benefit for children of a Foreign Service employee stationed overseas or for one of the child’s parents to visit the child abroad. This regulation provides payment of one round trip per year for an unmarried child under the age of 21 to visit either of the child’s parents, or for one of the child’s parents to visit the child abroad, subject to certain criteria.

The benefit can be used for the employee’s natural, adoptive, stepchildren, and children under legal guardianship or comparable permanent custody arrangement. Travel can be approved from post to another overseas point, but it is computed on a cost-constructive basis. Travel authorization should be obtained at post. The employee must sign a statement that this travel is not inconsistent with any applicable court order and/or separation agreement.

Cost construction involves a comparison of two amounts: (1) the cost to the USG for travel or sending goods as prescribed in the travel authorization; and (2) the cost for the employee to travel or send goods in a way that is dictated by personal preference. Only in cases where the second cost is more than the first does the employee pay the difference personally.

The child may travel to visit the Foreign Service parent abroad if the child does not regularly reside with that parent, and if the Foreign Service parent is not receiving an educational allowance, educational travel allowance, or separate maintenance allowance for the child.

The child may travel to visit the non-Foreign Service parent if that parent resides in a country other than the country to which the Foreign Service parent is assigned, and the child regularly resides with the Foreign Service parent and does not regularly attend school in the country in which the other parent resides (3 FAM 3752).

When both parents are foreign affairs agency employees, the noncustodial parent should apply for the travel of separated families’ benefit (3 FAM 3753.2).

A parent may visit the child abroad if the child does not regularly reside with that parent and that parent is not receiving an education allowance or educational travel allowance. This travel is not permitted if the child resides in the same country that the member is assigned to, or the child regularly attends school in the country in which the traveling parent resides (3 FAM 3753.1).

Child Support and Alimony Enforcement

The salary or pension of a federal employee, including members of the U.S. Armed Forces, may be garnished for the purpose of enforcing a legal obligation to provide child support or alimony (see 42 USC 659). The party requesting garnishment must provide evidence of the legal obligation such as a court order or custody/ divorce decree in accordance with 5 CFR Part 581. The Department will only process orders from U.S. courts; therefore, if a foreign court issued a support order, it must be recognized and re-issued by a U.S. court.

For information on how to have a Foreign Service employee’s wages or annuity garnished see Section 7: Financial and Privacy Act Considerations.

The Department of State expects its employees to fulfill their financial obligations. As per 3 FAM 4139.9, which governs financial responsibility, states, in part, that an agency may take disciplinary action for financially irresponsible behavior. Specifically, “disciplinary action may be warranted where an employee’s failure to pay financial obligations will result in embarrassment and/or discredit to the agency or Government.”

Any individual who is certified by Health and Human Services as owing over $2,500 in child support is prohibited by public law from receiving a U.S. passport. This prohibition, as stated in the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Reconciliation Act of 1996 (Public Law 104-193), was amended in October 2006 to reduce the amount triggering the statutory bar from $5,000 to $2,500. The prohibition includes diplomatic and official passports, both new issuances and renewals. The Department of State has no authority to waive this statutory requirement. For more information about owing child support, being in arrears, and the issuance of diplomatic passports, contact:

U.S. Department of State Passport Services
Special Issuance Agency
600 19th Street, N.W.
Washington, DC 20036
Tel: 1-877-487-2778
www.travel.state.gov

Child support cases with a passport hold (also known as child support arrearage) should be referred to the relevant State CSE (Child Support Enforcement) Office.

Public requests for general information regarding the denial of passports for non-payment of child support may be handled at post. If inquirers want specific action or information, a list of contact information for state child support offices is at www.acf.hhs.gov. For more information on Department of State policy on the issuance of passport and law enforcement regarding child support cases please contact:

U.S. Department of State
Law Enforcement Liaison Division
CA/PPT/S/L/LE
44132 Mercure Circle
PO Box 1227
Sterling, VA 20166-1227
Phone: 202-485-6550
Fax: 202-485-6555

The Department of State has undertaken bilateral discussions with many countries and formal arrangements are now in place for specific foreign countries on the subject. For information about international child support enforcement developments, see the Bureau of Consular Affairs’ webpage.

Parental Child Abduction

The International Parental Kidnapping Crime Act of 1993 (IPKCA) made child abduction from the United States a federal crime. Also, the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, which the United States ratified in 1988, is currently in force between the U.S. and certain other countries. For more information please see the Bureau of Consular Affair’s webpage on International Parental Child Abduction.

The Hague Convention provides a legal mechanism for the return of internationally abducted children to their country of habitual residence. A parent does not need to be violating a court order of custody to violate IPKCA or for an abduction to occur under the Hague Convention. Many criminal abductions under IPKCA, and abduction under the Hague Convention, happen before any court order of custody is issued.

• The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) has developed recommendations for writing custody decrees to help prevent the abduction of a child. Find contact information in Section 9: Resources.

Both parents must provide consent authorizing passport issuance for a minor under the age of 16 unless one of several exceptions applies. Either parent can request the Office of Children’s Issues to notify them if the other parent applies for a passport for the child. For more information please visit the Bureau of Consular Affairs’ webpage on the Child’s Passport Issuance Alert program.

• If you are concerned that your child may be issued a passport for another country, you may wish to send the foreign embassy a written request that a passport/visa not be issued to the child along with a certified copy of the custody decree.  No international law requires compliance with such request, but many countries will comply voluntarily.

A former spouse states:
I thought at the time that I should accept the annuity benefits but decided to waive the survivor benefits in case my wife decided to marry again. It seemed reasonable at the time. I didn’t realize what a mistake I was making.

Scenario 1
We have been married for 20 years. Most of that time I was home taking care of the children and being the flexible partner, reinventing myself over and over at each post. This divorce has come as a shock. I hadn’t planned on being on my own at this stage. I heard something about being entitled to annuity benefits. How does that work? What about continuing my health coverage? 

Pension and Survivor Benefits

Under sections 814 and 861 of the Foreign Service Act of 1980, as amended, unless otherwise expressly provided for by any spousal agreement or court order, a former spouse who was married to a Foreign Service officer during at least 10 years of their creditable federal service (with at least five of those years being while a member of the Foreign Service), is entitled to both pension and survivor benefits unless those benefits are waived.

A former spouse is entitled to these benefits if they were divorced after February 15, 1981, and there is no court order or notarized spousal agreement that provides otherwise. A former spouse’s annuity ends if they remarry before becoming 55 years of age and the remarriage occurred on or after November 8, 1984.

The pension benefit is a pro rata share of up to 50 percent of the Foreign Service pension and the survivor benefit is a pro rata share of the regular survivor annuity. This comes to 55 percent of the annuity under the old retirement Foreign Service Retirement and Disability System (FSRDS) and 50 percent under the new Foreign Service Pension System (FSPS).

A pro rata share reflects the percentage of time the former spouse was married to the officer during their years of creditable service. For example, if married during all of the officer’s creditable years of service, the former spouse is entitled to 50 percent of the pension. If married for half of the years of creditable service, the spouse is entitled to 25 percent of the pension.

If the EFM spouse agrees to waive their pro rata share of the pension and survivor benefits, any spousal agreement or court order must sufficiently identify the retirement system involved. To leave no room for doubt, the words Foreign Service, FSRDS (per 22 USC 4052(a)(1) and (b) (1)), or FSPS (per 22 USC 4071j(a)(1)(A) and (b)(1)) must appear in the document.

Scenario 2
But I don’t quite qualify exactly under these regulations. Are there any other provisions?

A former spouse who does not meet the eligibility requirements for pension or survivor benefits under Section 814 of the Act may still be entitled to receive a portion of the member’s annuity if this is provided for in a valid court order (Section 820(b)(2)). In addition, P.L. 100-238 of January 8, 1988, extended eligibility for survivor benefits to former spouses married to a Foreign Service member between 9 months and 10 years, provided that the survivor benefit is either elected by the employee or ordered by the court.

A former spouse divorced before 1981 may have entitlement to a pro rata share of pension and survivor benefits in accordance with the provision of P.L. 100-204, December 22, 1987, and P.L. 100-238, January 8, 1988. While application for these benefits expired June 22, 1990, the Office of Retirement (GTM/RET) will review any requests for waiver of this deadline on a case-by-case basis.

Important Note: An employee who remarries should review their designations for annuity and survivor benefits.

Scenario 3
My husband was married previously. Does that change the survivor benefits I am entitled to?

The maximum possible combined total of all current and former spouse survivor annuities is 55 percent of an FSRDS annuity and 50 percent of an FSPS annuity. As a result, a court order awarding a survivor annuity to a former spouse may reduce the amount that can be paid to the spouse married to the annuitant at the time of death.

In the case of the death of a spouse or former spouse who is entitled to a survivor annuity, if there is no surviving spouse, the Department of State will restore the retiree’s annuity to its full amount. In the event there is a surviving spouse eligible for a survivor annuity, there is no adjustment.

Health Benefits

A former spouse’s Federal Employee Health Benefits (FEHB) as a family member end on the day of divorce, subject to a temporary 31-day extension of coverage and conversion privilege to convert to a non-group contract with the same health carrier.

In order to maintain continuity of FEHB coverage, the former spouse must submit an FEHB application or a letter within 31 days of the date of divorce. A former spouse may apply for spouse equity FEHB health plan enrollment within 60 days of the date of divorce or 60 days of the GTM/RET notification letter of eligibility if they:

• were covered as a family member during 18 months prior to the divorce;
• have a current or future entitlement to an FSRDS or FSPS pension, survivor benefit, or apportionment payable;
• have not remarried prior to becoming 55; and
• divorced on or after May 7, 1985.

When the Spouse Equity enrollment terminates, a former spouse may be eligible for temporary continuation of health benefits coverage for the first 36 months after the divorce.

Additional information can be found on the Office of Personnel Management’s website.

Assets/Liabilities

Scenario 4
I have no idea where to start gathering our financial information or how to organize it for the lawyer. I don’t know how much my spouse makes as he always does the taxes. I know this can take a lot of the lawyer’s time which can get really expensive.

A former spouse states:
I came to the DC area after we separated at post. I really felt adrift and had few financial resources to live on or work with. I came back on advance travel orders, but that was the only cost that was covered. I relied on support sent from family and friends. I needed legal help from someone who was patient, understanding, and willing to help someone in my situation, but while at the same time, experienced, skillful and with a record of success. It was a lot to ask but I found it in spades at a local Women’s Center. The team of people they suggested, which included a divorce and financial planner, helped me to get my financial picture organized, which was a great help. Eventually, my spouse and I were able to work with the planner and a mediator for most of what we needed to resolve. Sure, we needed a lawyer for certain things, but this helped reduce what would have been huge costs to a manageable amount. Plus, we both came out of it empowered. From my experience, I highly recommend the outstanding professional financial planners, mediators, and lawyers connected with The Women’s Center (includes services to women, men, families, young adults, and children). It is especially great if you can get a team who often work together. I am sure there are similar centers, which are excellent as well.

As mentioned in the above story, one option to help you organize your financial picture—especially if you have already returned to the United States—is to check with your city/county for a list of reputable investment advisory representatives who are divorce and financial planners or contact the Department of State’s resource and referral service, WorkLife4You. The hourly rate may be one-third to one-half that of an attorney. They can provide you with a sample property agreement (check your country/state website to see if a sample is available) and work with you until it is complete and ready to present. (See contact information under Section 9: Resources.)

The Foreign Service Act of 1980, as amended, provides annuity and survivor annuity benefits. Within 60 days after the dissolution of the marriage, the former spouse must enroll in an approved health benefits plan as an individual or self and family. The former spouse must pay the full subscription charge of the enrollment (both the government and self-share). The spouse is free to choose any of the companies under the FEHB, and the Office of Retirement will provide information on the costs of the different policies.

The spouse is entitled to remain as a family member on the employee’s coverage until the divorce is final. Regardless of custody, the children can remain as family members on the employee’s coverage. However, it is important to note that, in this case, the insurance companies will reimburse payment for medical bills to the employee, even if the spouse has incurred the expense. It is sometimes possible for the spouse to make arrangements with the insurance carrier to have the company reimburse the parent who makes the payment. This issue should be addressed in advance by both parties in the divorce.

FEHB Temporary Continuation of Coverage

Former spouses who do not have an entitlement to a pro rata share or court ordered share of the employee’s retirement annuity have an alternate way of retaining government health benefits. On January 1, 1990, a new law (P.L.100-654) went into effect that will temporarily continue coverage under the FEHB for certain former spouses.

A former spouse may be eligible to continue FEHB coverage if they were enrolled in a regular plan as a family member at the time of the divorce or annulment (on or after January 1, 1990). The former spouse may choose self-only enrollment or a family enrollment that will cover the former spouse and children of that spouse and the federal employee. Coverage will continue for a maximum of 36 months following the divorce, or until covered by other health insurance, whichever comes first.

The cost of FEHB enrollment will be the full premium (the self and government shares) plus a two percent administrative charge. Either the employee or the former spouse should notify the employee’s agency within 60 days after the divorce or annulment is finalized to apply for these health benefits. Further information on the FEHB Temporary Continuation of Coverage (TCC) Program for former spouses is available from the post HR office or the Department of State Retirement Office:

GTM/RET
SA-1 Room H-620
Department of State
2401 E Street NW
Washington, DC 20037
Tel: 202-261-8960 or 1-866-224-9053 (Toll Free)
Fax: 202-261-8988
Email: HRSC@state.gov

For USAID, the employee or former spouse must contact the Office of Human Resources, Employee and Labor Relations (OHR/ELR), in writing:

HCSC/ESB
1300 Pennsylvania Ave., NW
Room 2.07-013
Washington, DC 20523

Important Note: An employee who remarries should review their designations for annuity and survivor benefits.

Garnishment of Wages/Annuity

Wages of an employee or pension of a retiree can be the subject of a wage deduction for child support or alimony payments if the state child support agency serves a support order on the Office of the Legal Adviser or on the equivalent office in the claimant’s agency (5 CFR Part 581). The support order is often issued by the state agency after a divorce or separation has been granted by a court. The order must be an order to the agency to withhold funds from the employee. An order to the employee to pay support is not by itself sufficient for the agency to withhold money from the employee.

Less frequently, a court order for support may be served first on the Department of State, but normally the state child support agency where the child lives will handle these matters. All such documents should be served on the Department of State at the following address:

Department of State 
US Department of State
Office of the Executive Director
Office of the Legal Adviser (L-H/EX)
600 19th Street NW, Suite 5.600
Washington, DC 20522

USAID 
USAID Office of General Counsel Room 6.06C
1300 Pennsylvania Avenue N.W. Washington DC 20523
Phone: 202-712-0900
Fax: 202-216-3023

Access to Employee Information

During the separation and divorce process, both employee and spouse should be aware that certain information about former and present federal employees is available to the public.
The following information regarding an employee is not protected by the Privacy Act:

• grade, salary,
• present position title and duty station,
• past government position titles and duty stations, and
• awards

This information may be released without obtaining the employee’s consent or complying with a Privacy Act condition of disclosure. If you have questions or concerns regarding Privacy Act matters, please contact the Chief, Records and Information Management Division (GTM/EX/RIM): Room H-804, SA1, Tel: 202-663-1897. For guidance, go to the Department of State’s Freedom of Information Act webpage.

Requesting Department of State Records

Access procedures, guidelines for the availability of Department of State records, and information available to the public are found in 22 Code of Federal Regulations (CFR) 171. To request Department of State records, please use an Electronic Submission. Employees of agencies other than the Department of State should check with their headquarters for guidance.
The portion of the employee’s performance appraisal pertaining to spouses (pre-1971) or any of the information listed above can be requested by writing to one of the following addresses:

Department of State 
Office of Information Resource Management Programs and Services (A/RPS/IPS)
SA-2, Room 6001
Washington, DC 20522-6001

In addition, a written request for an estimate of pro rata pension share can be requested from the Office of Retirement. When the spouse makes a written request for this information, it will be sent to the employee as well.  A written request for the name and number of the health benefits policy for family members can also be requested from the Office of Retirement: 202-261-8960.

Important Note: Other personal information regarding employees, spouses, or dependents covered by the Privacy Act can only be released with the consent of the individual concerned, for specified “routine uses,” as published in the Federal Register pursuant to the Privacy Act, pursuant to a court order, or pursuant to another specific statutory basis for disclosure of the Privacy Act.

Credit Union Membership

A divorced spouse can have an account at either the State Department Federal Credit Union (SDFCU) or the Lafayette Federal Credit Union (USAID) if they:

• Have an account in their own name prior to the divorce; or
• Have a blood relative (such as a child) with an account

For more information, contact:
State Department Federal Credit Union  
1630 King Street
Alexandria, VA 22314-2745
Tel: 703-706-5000 (Washington Metropolitan Area)
Tel: 800-296-8882 (continental United States)

Lafayette Federal Credit Union 
3535 University Boulevard West Kensington, MD 20895
Tel: 301-929-7990, 800-888-6560

Scenario 1
I am afraid to go back to the States and then have my ex come after me and the kids… what if I need to put a restraining order on my ex? Where do I go? 

Scenario 2
My EFM ex is unwilling to depart post and has taken to following my every move while I am not at work. How can I report this? Who can help?

The Bureau of Diplomatic Security (DS) is dedicated to thoroughly and transparently investigating allegations of domestic violence and child abuse occurring within the Chief of Mission (COM) community abroad. DS encourages all victims of domestic violence and child abuse to report incidents to the Regional Security Officer (RSO), who will then notify the DS Office of Special Investigations (OSI). OSI is staffed with special agents who are specially trained and experienced in investigating domestic violence and child abuse incidents.

Important Note: Under the Victims of Child Abuse Act of 1990, certain covered professionals, while engaged on Federal land or in a Federal-operated or contracted facility in their professional capacity, learns of facts that give reason to suspect that a child has suffered an incident of child abuse, must report the suspected child abuse as soon as possible to the RSO or DS. Please see 3 FAM 1813 for a list of covered professionals as well as additional information on child abuse reporting.

DS created the Victims’ Resource Advocacy Program (VRAP) in 2010 to empower victims of crimes that have been or are currently under investigation by DS. The VRAP is committed to assisting aggrieved individuals in overcoming difficulties that result from victimization by providing resources to deal with the realities that follow traumatic experiences and an understanding of the judicial processes surrounding criminal offenses. For more information, email vrap@state.gov.

Regardless of post location, (foreign or domestic) domestic violence and stalking can be of concern to an employee. Domestic violence, stalking, or harassment can cause the victim’s work habits to suffer and can be detrimental to their mental health. It is important to know that there are resources and people to help. For example, the Department of State’s Office of Civil Rights (S/OCR), SOCR_Harassment@state.gov offers individual counseling for victims of harassment.

Divorce scenarios may also involve conduct that presents concerns relevant to an individual’s security clearance or suitability for employment. In these circumstances, reports can be shared with the DS Office of Personnel Security and Suitability (PSS) at DSDirectorPSS@state.gov. PSS will acknowledge receipt, however, any actions taken on the basis of such reports are not disclosed with the reporter. When assessing reports, PSS uses the “whole person concept,” that is, considering the totality of an individual’s conduct and all relevant circumstances.  Adverse actions against a security clearance are not taken solely on the basis of a reported incident by an individual.

The Insider Threat Program is focused on deterring, detecting, and mitigating risks to the Department and the workforce posed by individuals with logical access to networks and/or information and physical access to facilities. Life events and personnel and/or professional stressors may elevate an individual’s risk level and escalate the potential for committing a harmful act. The Insider Threat Program creates awareness materials, such as an eNewsletter, that provides the workforce information on topics like improving communication, handling stress, and developing positive relationships.

When issues are identified, the Insider Threat Program works with partners across the Department to identify mitigation tactics to resolve the concern or lower the potential risk. Personal stress, such as divorce or separation, can affect the professional environment, especially within the close communities overseas, so early identification is key. When individuals notice behavior indicative of an insider threat, they should report it immediately to InsiderThreatReporting@state.gov or on the Anonymous Reporting Tool, available through the Department of State intranet page. For more information, visit the Insider Threat Page or contact ITP_Education@state.gov.

Family Advocacy Team

According to 3 FAM 1812.3-5, the Family Advocacy Team (FAT) at post consists generally of the family advocacy officer (FAO), Foreign Service Medical Officers (FSMOs), and the RSO. Other persons may be included on the FAT on a case-by-case basis at the discretion of the FAO, following consultation with other members of the team. The FAT is convened whenever there is suspicion of child abuse, child neglect, or domestic violence at a mission overseas. The FAT will conduct an initial inquiry into the incident or allegation and then use the information to determine a course of action regarding the well-being of the family in question. The RSO must send a report of the alleged incident to OSI, and the medical officer may send a report to MED. To prevent unfounded allegations, these records are not entered into a permanent medical record.

If DS determines that a crime has been committed, DS will pursue the criminal offense independently from the FAT. If medical evaluation or treatment is recommended, MED independently offers that recommendation. A representative from the Victims’ Resource Advocacy Program may be assigned to work with the victim to advocate for support resources and explain upcoming proceedings.

If treatment occurs, those records are eventually entered into the medical record at the end of a medevac (if one occurred as a result of the FAC investigation) or at the next time a medical clearance is being renewed. Files developed by MED for the FAT are maintained and destroyed in accordance with an established record disposition schedule.

Housing Issues at Post

Scenario 3
My spouse and I can no longer cohabitate here at post. I don’t want to leave post right now and I need some time and space to sort things out before I leave. Can post get me another apartment or house to stay in while we work out the details of my departure?

When post has a vacancy in the housing pool, they may be compelled to let a spouse (and children) move in (for a limited time) so they can get organized to leave post, or until the end of a school semester or year when a month or two remains. This is to try to minimize the disruption to the children’s education (this is where the Family Advocacy Team at post and MED can play a role). The post is not required to provide separate housing, nor does the Department of State have money to fund non-employees’ separate housing at post.

In cases where tandem couples request separate housing, the only way for post to assign separate housing is for the employee and/or employees to provide the Single Real Property Manager (SRPM) at post – this is often the Management Officer — with a copy of legal separation papers/documents; the copies should be notarized.  In some case you may need to send copies to the Inter-Agency Housing Board (IAHB) at post.

You should consult with the Management Officer about the possibility of obtaining temporary housing. You may be able to stay in such housing until you have had an opportunity to make basic plans and, if you have children enrolled in a school at post, possibly until the end of the school year.

Misconduct

Scenario 4
I am the victim of spousal abuse, and I don’t want to jeopardize my soon to be ex’s career, but I am so confused. Where else can I get information about spousal abuse, and who is in charge of the Department’s policy on bad conduct?

Conduct, Suitability, and Discipline Division, Office of Employee Relations (ER/CSD), a division of the Office of Employee Relations, administers and develops policies regarding the Department of State’s suitability and disciplinary programs for Foreign and Civil Service employees both overseas and domestic. It analyzes cases based on performance and/or conduct, including security violations and appeals.

The division also provides advisory services to employee’s supervisors and managers regarding employee-related issues, and it performs suitability adjudication on employees and applicants.

OSI may conduct investigations into criminal and administrative misconduct committed by Department employees and contractors stationed domestically and by all executive branch U.S. Government employees and contractors under COM authority (see 12 FAM 226.1(a)). Investigations range from administrative misconduct such as misuse of a Department – issued credit cards or serious security violations to criminal cases such as child and spousal abuse. If you suspect employee misconduct or have an issue you would like to discuss with a DS/OSI special agent, you can contact OSI via the DS Command Center at 571-345-3146 or DS-OSIDutyAgent@state.gov.

DS Special Agents and Department of State medical professionals serving at overseas posts report potential child abuse, child neglect, and domestic violence allegations to their respective RSO who will then be responsible for notifying OSI pursuant to 3 FAM 1810.

Regulations on Conduct

Scenario 5
I know someone who received a dishonorable discharge from the military for taking a jeep out of motor pool without permission. My spouse has done similar things and worse, can he be separated from the service and what is the policy on bad conduct?

3 FAM 4130 sets forth guidelines for deciding an applicant’s suitability for the Foreign Service and for taking disciplinary action against a Foreign Service employee. The regulation requires employees to maintain the highest standards of conduct at all times, during and after working hours, when on leave, or in travel status. Accordingly, many of the offenses listed in 3 FAM 4130 could still be punishable, even if committed after work hours.

Misconduct can also result in the loss of an employee’s clearance, curtailment, and/or discipline up to and including separation. This is also stated in 22 STATE 109438.

The Secretary of State encourages everyone to behave honorably to promote healthy work environments and to avoid conduct demonstrating untrustworthiness, unreliability, or use of poor judgment.

Divorce is a civil matter, but the behavior of Foreign Service employees reflects on the entire Foreign Service and bears scrutiny. There are many resources within GTM/ER, GCLO, MED, and DS that can assist post and employee/spouses (partners) whenever a divorce is imminent.

The regulations found in 3 FAM 4138, Standards of Conduct, apply to all Foreign Service employees.

These standards maintain the efficiency of the Foreign Service, and while not all inclusive, may constitute grounds for taking disciplinary action against an employee after due consideration of the factors in 3 FAM 4137.

Legal Referral Services

Alexandria Bar Association 
Tel: 703-548-1106
Website: www.alexandriabarva.org

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers 
Tel: 312-263-6477
Website: www.aaml.org

Arlington County Bar Association 
Tel: 703-228-3390
Website: www.arlingtonbar.org

Bar Association of District of Columbia 
Tel: 202-737-4700
Website: www.dcbar.org

Bar Association of Montgomery County 
Tel: 301-424-3454
Website: www.montbar.org

Fairfax Bar Association 
Tel: 703-246-2740
Website: www.fairfaxbar.org

AVVO.com 
This is a great online resource where you can research legal issues, get free legal advice, find a lawyer, or ask a question. AVVO can help you locate a lawyer outside of the DC metro area.
Website: www.avvo.com

WorkLife4You 
This is the Department of State’s comprehensive and confidential resource and referral service that offers support to employees searching for ways to balance the demands of their professional and personal lives. They have a wealth of information on divorce including 30 minutes of free consultation with a lawyer. To request customized research and referrals, email a specialist directly at Specialist@LifeCare.com. Specialists are available any time of the day or night, every day of the year. For assistance logging on to the website, email the Help Desk at Help@LifeCare.com or by phone at 866- 552-4748.
Website: https://www.worklife4you.com/index.html  

American Foreign Service Association 
AFSA has a list of attorneys who have successfully represented Foreign Service employees or who have experience dealing with divorce and other legal issues.
Website: www.afsa.org/attorney_list.aspx

Department of State Resources

Employee Consultation Services (ECS) 
ECS provides short-term counseling and referrals for Department of State and USAID employees and family members. This is a confidential, free service staffed by licensed clinical social workers. ECS also runs a monthly Divorce Support Group. It is located in room H246, Columbia Plaza.
Tel: 202-634-4847
Email: medecs@state.gov

Global Community Liaison Office 
GCLO serves U.S. Government direct-hire employees and their family members, including Members of Household, serving overseas and in the U.S. GCLO’s mission is to improve their quality of life through advocacy and, programs and services online, in Washington, and at over 200 posts worldwide.

Email GCLOAskSupportServices@state.gov with questions and to request checklists for couples separating/divorcing at post, management guidance for divorce at post, and post-divorce benefits and life planning for employees.

2201 C Street, NW, Room 2133
Washington, DC 20520
Tel: 202-647-1076
Website www.state.gov/gclo
Email: GCLOAskSupportServices@state.gov

WorkLife4You 
This is the Department of State’s comprehensive and confidential resource and referral service that offers support to employees searching for ways to balance the demands of their professional and personal lives. To request customized research and referrals, email a specialist directly at Specialist@LifeCare.com. Specialists are available any time of the day or night, every day of the year. For assistance logging on to the web site, contact the Help Desk at Help@LifeCare.com or by phone at 866-552-4748.
Website: https://www.worklife4you.com/index.html

Garnishment of Wages/Annuity

U.S. Department of State 
Office of the Executive Director
Office of the Legal Adviser (L-H/EX)
600 19th Street NW, Suite 5.600
Washington, DC 20522

USAID 
USAID Office of General Counsel Room 6.06C
1300 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW
Washington DC 20523
Phone: 202-712-0900
Fax: 202-216-3023

Office of Retirement 
Former spouses of Foreign Service employees are entitled to a number of pension, survivor, and health benefits. Since there are specific time limitations to qualify for some benefits, it is important to submit your divorce decree and property settlement documents promptly to GTM/RET (Department of State employees) or your agency’s HR office.
Tel: 202-261-8960
Website: www.rnet.state.gov
Email: HRSC@state.gov

Transportation Management 
For issues related to transportation, HHE, or removing items from storage, contact your management officer at post or transportation counselor in DC.
Email: transportationquery@state.gov

Victims’ Resource Advocacy Program 
VRAP’s primary responsibility is to provide advocacy and ongoing support domestically and overseas during investigations and judicial processes of Diplomatic Security cases. This includes domestic violence and child abuse cases.
Tel: 571-345-9832
Email: vrap@state.gov

Advocacy Resources in the Washington, D.C. Area

Note: The following list of advocacy resources has been collected by the Global Community Liaison Office (GCLO). Inclusion on the list does not constitute an endorsement or a recommendation of any of these organizations by GCLO or the Department of State.

Ask the Divorced Guy! 
Dean Hughson is the founder of the DIVORCE HOMEPAGE. He has talked to thousands of people contemplating divorce, going through divorce, or the chaos afterwards and gives referrals, support, and friendly advice.  He resides in Nevada, the state with the highest divorce rate in the U.S.
Website: www.divorcesupport.com/

The Associates of the American Foreign Service Worldwide (AAFSW) 
AAFSW provides support for employees and family members who are going through a separation or divorce.
Tel: 703-820-5420
Website: www.aafsw.org/spouses-in-transition/
Email: office@aafsw.org or divorce@aafsw.org

AVVO.com 
This is an online resource where you can research legal issues, get free legal advice, find a lawyer or ask a question.
Website: www.avvo.com

Dads at a Distance 
The Dads at a Distance website is designed to help fathers who have to be away from their children maintain and strengthen the relationships they have with their children while they are away.
Website: www.daads.com

Divorcenet.com 
This DC divorce page includes a directory of divorce lawyers, mediators, and other professionals and family law articles on child support, alimony, custody, and property division. It also provides links to local resources.
Website: www.divorcenet.com/states/district_of_columbia

DivorceSupport.com 
This internet divorce page provides information on family law topics such as divorce, child custody, visitation, child support, alimony, and property division. It also has state specific divorce laws and articles
Website: www.divorcesupport.com

The Foreign Service Youth Foundation (FSYF) 
FSYF is a non-profit organization dedicated exclusively to the support of children of employees of the U.S. foreign affairs agencies.
Tel: 703-731-2960
Email: fsyf@fsyf.org
Website: www.fsyf.org

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children 
Tel: 703-224-2150; 800-843-5678
Website: www.missingkids.com

New Beginnings 
NEW BEGINNINGS® is a support group for separated and divorced men and women in the DC metro area (MD, DC and VA). Established in 1979, it is the oldest and only group in the metro area that deals strictly with separation/divorce and is open to people without children.
Tel: 301-924-4101
Website: www.newbeginningsusa.org/nbtest/about.html

Northern Virginia Family Service 
Northern Virginia Family Service was established by volunteers in 1924 and is a private non-profit organization staffed by professionals trained in counseling, social work, and community outreach. Its mission is to empower individuals and families to improve their quality of life, and to promote community cooperation and support in responding to family needs.
Tel: 571-748-2500
Email: info@nvfs.org
Website: www.nvfs.org

Northern Virginia Mediation Service 
NVMS is a non-profit affiliate of George Mason University’s School for Conflict Analysis and Resolution. Its mission is to provide accessible, affordable and appropriate conflict education, engagement and resolutions services. NVMS helps people improve communication and work together more effectively to create mutually satisfying solutions to difficult issues.
Address: 9653 Fairfax Blvd., Suite 203, Fairfax VA 20005
Tel: 703-865-7272
Website: www.nvms.us

The Women’s Center 
This group (for men and women) has workshops on the financial and legal aspects of separation and divorce in Virginia and has a volunteer lawyer who will answer questions by telephone. In addition, there are counselors, financial analysts, mediators, and lawyers who are associated with the Center. Fees are reasonable and may be negotiated in some cases.
Address: 133 Park Street, NE Vienna VA 22180
Tel: 703-281-2657
Address: 1025 Vermont Ave, NW, Suite 310, Washington DC, 2005
Tel: 202-293-4580
Website: thewomenscenter.org

Listings of private entities on this page are provided as a convenience and should not be construed as an endorsement by the U.S. Department State or the U.S. government of the entity, its views or the products or services it provides. The order in which names appear has no significance, and the links may be removed at any time at the discretion of the Department.